HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AND GET A SOCIAL LIFE

How to Make Friends And Get a Social Life

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fairly common social issue people have is that they're not sure how to make friends and put together a social life for themselves. There are quite a few ways someone can find themselves in this situation:
They've moved to a new city and don't know very many people yet.
They've been in a long-term relationship and have let their social life wither.
Their old friends have slowly been dropping out of the picture (moving away, busy with work or a new family, etc.) and haven't been replaced by new ones.
A large chunk of their social circle disappeared overnight, like everyone graduated from university and most of their friends moved out of the city.
They feel like they've grown apart from their current friends and want to make entirely new ones.
In the past they were happy being alone a lot of the time, but now they want to be around people more often.
They never really knew how to make friends and have always wished their social lives were better.
They've recently made a big lifestyle change such as deciding not to drink anymore, and need to develop a new social circle that's more suited to it.
Below are my thoughts on how to make friends. I'll cover a basic structure first, then go into some attitudes and principles towards the whole thing that I think are important. I've noticed people who are already good at making friends naturally tend to do most of the things I outline below.
Bare bones guide on how to make friends
Here are the basic steps to making friends. It seems simplistic, but there can be a lot to each point. People who struggle with their social lives often stumble on one or more of them as well.

1. Find some potential friends

To make friends you first have to find some possible candidates. There are two main ways to do this:
Draw on your current contacts
This won't apply to people who have just moved to a new area and don't know anyone, but often you'll already have the seeds of a social life around you. You don't necessarily have to go out and meet ten strangers to have one. It's often easier to turn existing contacts into full-fledged friends than it is to meet new ones.
There are probably a handful of people you already know who could end up becoming part of a new social circle. I'm talking about people like:
Acquaintances you're friendly with when you run into each other, but who you never see otherwise.
People at work or in your classes who you get along with.
Friends of people you know who you've gotten along with in the past.
Someone who has shown an interest in being your friend but you never really took up the offer.
People you very occasionally hang out with, who you could see more often.
Friends you've gradually lost contact with who you could get back in touch with .
For some people, cousins who are close to your age.
Meet some new people
Getting more out of your current relationships can go a long way, but it doesn't always work. Sometimes you're at a point where you need to meet entirely new people. Not having easy access to potential new friends is a big barrier for many people in creating a social circle. I go into more detail here: How To Meet People.
Overall, I'd say the easiest things to do are:
Put yourself in a situation where lots of potential friends are around, and you naturally have to get to know them through your day-to-day interactions. Work and school are the two big ones.
Meet one or two good people and then getting to know all their friends. If you hang out with fifteen people, you shouldn't have to have met them all individually.
Get into hobbies or communities where you'll naturally meet a lot of people, ones you already have something common with and a built-in activity/conversation opportunity to do with them.
Overall, meeting new people may require making an effort to pull out of your day-to-day routine. If most of your hobbies are solitary you might also need to add some more people-oriented ones to the mix. Also, the easiest way to naturally meet a lot of people is just to live a full, interesting life and run into lots of potential friends as a side effect.
Once you're in a situation with some prospective friends around, you need to strike up conversations and try to get to know them. You won't form a connection with everyone you interact with, but if you chat to enough people you'll find you like and get along pretty well with some of them. Once you've done that you could say you're now at the Friendly Acquaintance stage, or that they're context-specific contacts (e.g., work "friends").
If you have trouble with successfully meeting, chatting to, and getting to know people, you may want to check out the site's sections on shyness, fears, and insecurity and on making conversation.

2. Invite potential friends to do something with you

Once you've met those people you seem to be clicking with, ask them to hang out and do something outside of the situation you met them in. This is the most important step in my experience. You can meet all the people you want, and they can think you're great, but if you don't take any actions to do something with them in the future, then you won't form many new relationships. People will stay as the guy you talk to in class, or the girl you chat to at work in the break room.
This seems basic, but lonelier people often hit a wall here. There may be someone they joke around with at work, or chat to in one of their classes, but they won't take the step of inviting them out and taking the relationship to the next level, and beyond the acquaintance stage.
If you're on the shyer side, you might be a little hesitant to invite people out. While it is a little scary at first, and there is some risk of rejection, it's fairly easy to get used to. It's not nearly as bad as asking someone out on a date, for example.
Depending on how you met them, you may invite someone to hang out fairly quickly or wait a few weeks. For example, if a friend brings one of their buddies along to have drinks with you one day, and you spent four hours together and hit it off from the start, you may be totally comfortable asking them to hang out again right away. On the other hand, if you seem to mesh with someone at your job, but can only have short conversations with them here and there, it may be a month before you feel ready to invite them out.
If you're not sure how to ask someone to do something with you, you could check out this article:
Examples Of Various Ways To Invite People To Hang Out
Make a habit of getting people's contact information
It's a good idea to get into the habit of getting people's contact info fairly early. You may meet someone interesting, but you can never assume you're going to see them around again anytime soon. Ask for their phone number or email address, or see if they're on Facebook. That way if an opportunity to get together comes up, they'll be easy to reach. Also, if they have your info, then they can get a hold of you if they want to invite you to something.
Have a basic grasp of how to make plans
To hang out with someone you've got to plan it. Sometimes the process is straightforward. You ask them if they want do something, they agree, and you set a time and place. At other times trying to nail down a plan can be tedious and unpredictable, especially when more than one other person is involved. It helps to accept that this is just an area where there's always going to be an amount of uncertainty, and you can't control everything.
If inviting people out and arranging plans all seems like a big hassle, it also probably feels that way for everyone else at times. They shouldn't always have to step up and organize things for you. Do some of the lifting yourself when you need to.
More details here:
Advice On Making Plans With People
Do your best to accept every invitation
Of course, making your own plans is important, but if someone asks you to hang out, then that's even better. If someone invites you to do something, then you should go. Why turn down a free chance to get out there with people? When you've got more friends and different options competing for your time you can be more choosy.
If you're more of a shy or solitary person it's easy to mull over the invitation and rationalize that it won't be that fun and that you don't want to go. Ignore those thoughts and go anyway. You never can be sure how fun something will be until you show up and see how it is for yourself.
Sometimes you'll have to inconvenience yourself for the sake of your social life. You may get invited to a movie you don't particularly want to see, or someone might call you up on Friday evening as you're about to go to bed, asking if you want to go out. Whenever you have two or more people in the equation, you're going to have to compromise sometimes. Again, just being out there outweighs these minor annoyances.
Another thing to consider is that many people will stop inviting someone out to things if they decline too often. They may have nothing against the person, but the next time they're planning an event will think, "Paul never comes out when I ask him, so no point in letting him know this time really."

3. Once you've got some budding friendships, keep in touch, keep hanging out, and let the relationship grow

It's one thing to hang out with someone once, or only occasionally. You could consider them a friend of sorts at that point. For that particular person maybe that's all you need in a relationship with them, someone you're casually friendly with and who you see every now and then. However, for someone to become a closer, more regular friend you need hang out fairly often, keep in touch, enjoy good times together, and get to know each other on a deeper level. You won't have the compatibility to do this with everyone, but over time you should be able to build a tighter relationship with some of the people you meet.
I talk about developing friendships way more in this article:
How To Grow And Deepen New Friendships
Once you know some people, build on this foundation
Once you've made a regular friend or two you've also got a good base to work from. If you're not super social in nature, one or two good buddies may be all you need to be happy. At the very least, if you were feeling lonely and desperate before, having a relationship or two should be enough to take those feelings away.
Sooner or later you'll end up meeting your friend's friends. If you hit it off with them then you can start hanging out with them as well. You could also become a member of the whole group with time. You can also continue to meet entirely new people. Having friends will make this easier as they'll do things like invite you to parties or keep you company in places where there are new people to potentially meet.

4. Repeat the above steps more often to make more friends

If you join one new club, hit it off with three people there, and end up hanging out with two of them long term, then you've made two new friends. If you stop there then that's all you'll have. If week after week you're coming up with new ways to meet people, and then following up and attending lots of get togethers, then you'll have a pile of friends and acquaintances eventually.
It's up to you when you feel like stopping. There's no law that says everyone has to have dozens of people in their social circle either. Many people are perfectly happy only having a few really close relationships. If you only have a couple of friends and decide you want more though, you can always get out there again.
General principles of making friends
Above I outlined a basic structure of Meet People > Hang Out With Them > Keep Hanging Out > Repeat. Now I'll go into some broader concepts that apply to making friends as a whole. I think the points below are just as important as the stuff I've covered already, if not more so.
If you want a social life, you've got to make it happen for yourself
A huge, core principle when it comes to building a social life is: Take Initiative. It's a big mistake to passively wait for other people to do the work of befriending you. It's great if it happens, but don't count on it. If you want to get a group of friends, assume you'll have to put in all the effort. If you want to do something on the weekend, don't sit around and hope someone texts you. Get in touch with various people and put something together yourself, or find out what they're doing and see if you can come along.
Don't worry too much about seeming desperate or needy. Take the attitude that it's about you and you'll do what needs to be done to make some friends. Who cares if a handful of people think you're a bit too eager along the way if it all eventually works out? It's a lot like dating or trying to find a new job. What you get out of these things depends a lot on how much you put into them.
Don't take it personally if people seem indifferent to you
Other people are often harmlessly thoughtless and preoccupied in the sense that they'd be happy if they hung out with you, but they wouldn't think to ask you themselves. Sometimes you have to take an interest in them before you appear on their radar.
Similarly, some people are more lax and laid back than you'd like about returning your emails or calls. They're not consciously trying to reject you. They're just a little more loosey-goosey about that stuff than most.
Don't feel making friends is super tricky
If you're inexperienced with making friends, you may see the process as being more drawn-out and complex than it really is. Often all you have to do to make a friend is meet someone you naturally click with and hang around with them enough. You also don't have to know them for months before applying the 'friend' label to them. One characteristic of more social people is that they'll throw the word friend around pretty loosely when describing their relationships. But it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy in a way. Sure, if you've just met someone it may not be a deep, intimate relationship, but you can still hang out with them and have a good time.
Don't be overly picky about who you hang out with at first
If you're lonely your initial goal should just be to get some sort of social life going. So hang out with whoever you get along with and who seems interested in doing things with you. The first people you meet may not be your 100% ideal friends. The benefits of just being out there as opposed to moping around at home outweigh this. At the very least, it's easier to make further friends when you've already got a few. Also, if you're forming your first-ever group of friends, you probably don't totally know what you like or want in other people. You have to see what different types of people are like in a friend capacity firsthand.
As a general rule, if you more-or-less get along with someone, actually become friends with them first, and then decide if you want to be friends. If you're picky, you can come up with reasons not to befriend just about anyone ahead of time. But when you're already hanging out with someone, and you've skipped over your pickiness, you often find you like their company, even if they wouldn't have been good 'on paper' in your mind beforehand.
I also give this advice because studies show lonely people tend to be more negative about others in general. Less naturally outgoing types can also be more picky about who they choose to spend their time with. If you naturally tend to be down on everyone you meet, you need to make an effort to consciously override these feelings. Plus, don't have an unrealistic self-image that demands you can only hang out with a certain caliber of people. Be realistic about yourself and your circumstances.
If you don't totally like yourself you may also be averse to hanging around people who you see as too similar to you, as it can act as a mirror that reflects your shortcomings back at you. This may be justified if you have some irksome traits and understandably want to avoid others who have them, but often you may be turning away legitimately good people who just happen to have some characteristics that hurt your pride a little.
Be persistent and try not to get discouraged by setbacks too easily
Sometimes you'll join a club or be introduced to your friend's friends and hope to meet a bunch of great new people. Then you get there and the experience is disappointing. You may feel like you don't click with anyone, or like they're ignoring you in favor of making in-jokes with each other. Give these groups a few more tries. Often you're limited in how much you'll connect with others on the first meeting. You may warm up to each other before long.
If someone refuses your invitation because they're busy or not sure if they can make it out then don't give up. Try again another time. Don't automatically jump to the conclusion that they hate you and you're fundamentally unlikable. Assume the best. Also, even the act of making an invitation sends the message that you like someone and want to hang out with them. They may be unable to meet that one time, but now see you as someone they could possibly have fun with in the future.
When you meet potential friends be realistic about your importance in their lives and how long it may take to become buddies with them. They probably already have a social circle and their world won't end if it doesn't work out with you. As such, don't get too discouraged if they're not knocking down the door to hang out with you a day after you met them. They may be busy and your plans may not pan out for another few weeks.
Sometimes it just won't work out with someone. You'll get along at the time, and they may express an interest in hanging out in the future, but for whatever reason things don't materialize. They may be too busy, already have enough friends, or they don't think you're a good enough match for them. It happens to everyone and is nothing to get too down about. Keep the bigger picture in mind and continue meeting people.
The whole 'taking initiative and don't give up too easily' thing can be a missing piece of the puzzle for people, but sometimes it still seems that no one is interested in you. You may want to check this out:
When People Don't Seem Interested In Being Friends With You
Be patient
In the right situations you can build a new social life really quickly, like if you've just moved to a new city to go to college, or if you join the right club or team and instantly click with everyone there.
At other times it takes longer for things to develop, but stick with it. It may take a while before you get a chance to meet some people you're compatible with. After that, it may be a few months before you're consistently hanging around with each other. It may be a year or more before you feel like you're really, really friends with them. It often takes time to go from having no plans, to having plans with the same person every third weekend, to having plans with a variety of people three times a week.
More specific articles
This article covered some general principles for making friends. While relying on those base concepts, the following articles cover making friends in particular circumstances:

WHAT A MAN CAN DO TO MAKE A WOMAN FALL INLOVE

WHAT A MAN CAN DO TO MAKE A WOMAN FALL INLOVE REVIEWED BY SIX WOMENS

Listen up, guys!

Men's magazines will have you believe that trying to woo a lady is some sort of intricate science that researchers have been trying to figure out for years. However, this isn't exactly true. Along with effort, obviously, sometimes what really makes an impact is the weird and whacky stuff you do.
We spoke to real women about some of the unlikely ways guys were able to win their hearts. And maybe, just maybe, it can teach you how to get a girl to like you.

1. Show that you care.

If you want to win a woman over, especially if it's early in the game,
you need to show that you care, deeply, about her health and welfare.
"Before my husband and I started dating, when we were just sleeping together, I somehow ended up telling him that I had to go to the doctor to have a biopsy done on my cervix because they were concerned I had
cancer. He got off the night shift, stayed up until I had to go to the hospital, and then drove me to his place where he set me up on his couch with his pajamas, his bathrobe, a bowl of my favorite cereal, and Lord of the Rings extended editions. Then he went to work and brought me ice cream when he came home. He stayed awake for 36 hours to make sure I was OK and had everything I needed, and completely pampered me while I recovered... before we were dating." — Colleen, 29
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"When I was out once with a guy I was seeing named Mike, a random man was bothering my friend Lindsey. Mike stepped in and said, 'Excuse me, sir, she doesn't want you touching her or bothering her, so please leave her alone.' I thought it was cute that he stood up not for me, but my friend. This guy was a lot bigger than Mike and was very drunk." — MS, 26.
"We were dating, and I fell off a set of stairs and broke my leg. We weren't anything official yet, but he took time off work to come and take care of me. What guy does that? He won me over,
and realized he was a keeper."
— Ruthie, 40

2. Don't be afraid to be quirky.

Women like men who don't exactly conform to the masses. Being cool is great, but if there isn't some strangeness in there, it's kinda "meh." It's important to let your quirkiness shine.
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"Last Christmas, my boyfriend's gift to me consisted of multiple components, and one of them was a harmonica. I was thinking (and actually said out loud), '...the f*ck?' to which he responded, 'Get it? A harmonica for Monika!' It was pretty endearing." — Monika, 26
"The guy I was casually seeing, who lived out of town at the time, flew in as a surprise and had someone deliver a hilarious ransom note to me while I was at work. The ransom note was from my beloved stuffed animal frog, Lawn. I spent my whole shift hoping it was he who had done this. It was, and he won my heart with that... then broke it very similarly years later." — Dana, 33

3. Pretend to be someone else.

While being yourself is always recommended, it's OK to stray from that if it means getting someone's attention.
"I got asked out while riding a bicycle once which was super-awesome. He had to get my attention by pretending to be a bike cop wanting to give me a ticket for not wearing a helmet, which was not uncommon. I thought it was so clever so I went on a date with him." — Cortney, 30
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4. Sacrifice your "manliness."

I think we can all agree that any man who can show his sensitive side is the kinda guy a lot of women will go crazy for. So, why not really push the limits?
"I had to practice some makeup techniques, and he let me use his face as a canvas. At that point, I was like 'Yeah, I'm totally into this guy for playing along.'" — Amber, 25

5. Fake the same interests.

Sometimes you'll find yourself sitting across from someone whose interests vary from yours. There's nothing wrong with pretending you're interested in something, even if you have no clue what it is.
"On our first date, Scot asked me what kind of music I liked. I told him I was into indie music, as in the independent music scene. He said he was too, although he couldn't name a favorite band because he 'loved them all.' Several months later he admitted that he had no idea what indie music was and assumed it was from India. It was adorable. To this day, he still says he listens to indie music, although he knows what it is now and actually doesn't." — Jennifer, 34
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6. Play hard to get.

It's true that sometimes we really do want what we can't have, and it's only when we don't have something or lose it that we realize we need it.
"It's like every story you've ever heard: he wanted me, I wasn't interested so he moved on, so, of course, I wanted him after that. Turned out, his new girlfriend was made-up and just a technique to serve the exact purpose it did. We've been together for almost five years." — Elizabeth, 28
"After a long, flirtatious conversation, a guy I liked left the party without asking for my number. It made him seem mysterious and desirable. The next time I saw him out I was determined to talk to him again. We ended up dating soon after that." — Stephanie, 26

HOW TO ENJOY BEIGNG ALONE

HOW TO ENJOY BEING ALONE

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TO ENJOY BEIGN ALONE

If you're reading this you're probably really bored and, at the moment, have no one to be with. Whether you long for a boyfriend or girlfriend, or miss your family and friends, this guide can help you cope with living alone. Keep in mind that humans are indeed social animals, but that doesn't mean that we can't be perfectly happy outside of society too.

Part One of Six:
Learning to Love Your Solitude
Learn to embrace being alone. Solitude is a time for reflection, for thinking about things more deeply. In a world increasingly focused on speed and competitiveness, solitude is precious and something to be treasured.
Be happy. Live a life of optimism. Happiness comes from within, regardless of your situation. Don’t use being alone as an excuse for not enjoying your life; make something good from it.
Do everything you would normally do with a partner or friend. Many times it isn't the partner or friend you are missing, but the activities and hobbies you shared. Take yourself out for a date. For example, if you would have gone out to dinner or to a movie on a date, then take yourself out to a movie or to a nice restaurant. Don't hold yourself back.
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Part Two of Six:
Creative Activities
Write. Write a story or two. This not only increases your imagination, but also keeps you happy. This highly increases your optimism. You can also write some poetry.
Read. Time spent alone is good time to catch up on some of your reading. Not only is it fun and enjoyable, but it's also self-education and a way to round yourself as a person.
Consider spending some time with classics such as "Moby Dick," "A Christmas Carol," "Romeo and Juliet," "The Martian Chronicles," "Great Expectations," or "Tales of Mystery and Imagination."
Or choose a genre to explore: Sci-Fi greats include "Stranger In a Strange Land," "Fahrenheit 451," and the "Dune" series. Horror: "Salem's Lot," "The Stand," and "Dracula." Fantasy: "Lord of the Rings," "Chronicles of Narnia," and "Harry Potter." Or just regular fiction: "East of Eden," "To Kill a Mockingbird," or "A Farewell to Arms."
Poetry is cool, too, and nothing makes you look cooler than when someone says, "Oh my God, you actually know that by heart?" Great poetry: "Charge of the Light Brigade," "Ulysses," "She Walks In Beauty," "How Do I Love Thee," and Shakespeare's Sonnets - #29 is great!
You also have the opportunity to check out some playwrights such as; Edward Albee, David Mamet, Neil Simon and Tennessee Williams. Each playwright incorporates an interesting view and characters whose lives are constantly being turned on their heads.
Listen to lots of music. If you are a music fan then you can enjoy being alone by listening to music you enjoy or music that brings back memories of certain events.
Sing. Or, if you don't like singing, try dance. It really helps as you get engaged in something and research shows that exercising or dancing releases the bad emotions in person. Plus, if you think you are not a good dancer or singer, you are wrong since you aren't doing this for anyone else, it's for yourself, so just let go!
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Part Three of Six:
Learning Opportunities
Learn something new. Learning is the most important aspect of living alone. It helps to keep the boogeyman away, and also gives you something to talk about when you do have to actually enter society. Learning is also incredibly more efficient when you don't have social responsibilities like family to take care of, or a girlfriend or boyfriend to entertain.
Learning isn't just exclusive to books (although they are a great source of knowledge). You can learn to do anything by just practicing. Enrolling in classes is fun and also helps with the social life - you will meet new people in your classes. If you're not so much into the meeting people, the Internet is a great way to learn pretty much everything (That's what this site's for!).
Consider learning in areas you've never ventured before. This might include:
Indoor activities, a foreign language, painting, yoga, mathematics, science, art appreciation, a musical instrument such as piano or flute.
Outdoor activities: Gardening, fencing, tennis, golf.
Or a combination: Meaning, things you can do indoors and out, such as photography or drawing.
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Part Four of Six:
Reflection Time
Think. Reflect on life and greater meanings; be introspective. Contemplate or ponder things.
Above all, contemplation is one of the most important self-building things you can do. Think about what makes you
you. What do you believe in? Why? Are there any things that don't seem right to you? What do you believe at face value (or accept as a matter of faith)?
Take up reading philosophy. This is a great way to improve your thinking and reasoning skills. It will give you interesting topics that will stretch and bend your brain to help you understand your view of reality. Keep in mind that just because someone believes in something it doesn't mean you have to if you don't like it.
Philosophers: Socrates, Plato, Nietzsche, Descartes, Aristotle, Kant, Rand, Marx
Don't over-analyse things independent of you. It is easy to read-into experiences, feelings, thoughts, and attitudes of others and make judgements that are really founded on nothing more than your own naive perception. This can quickly become a negative activity and get you down. Realize that you don't have all the facts and that's just fine.
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Part Five of Six:
Finding Connections with Others
Get a pet. Humans need affection, without it there is a risk of becoming bitter and hating the world around you. Pets are often a source of affection and will give loads of it endlessly.
Pets also provide someone to talk to. No, it's not weird that you talk to your pet, it's weird if you don't. Just be cautious that your pet doesn't talk back (unless if it is one of the few types of birds that can do so). If so, seek professional help.
If you are aloof and self-sufficient, tropical fish, hamsters, budgies or finches are great choices. If you like a little interaction, but not a lot of maintenance, try a cat. If you want to be very hands-on, spend lots of time and get lots of feedback, a dog is for you.
Getting a pet doesn't mean getting a dog or cat right away. Often, if you are unprepared to deal with this level of responsibility, the experience will be terrible for both you and the animal. Don't be fooled into thinking a smaller animal like a rabbit or bird won't need lots of care - a rabbit needs daily human contact and several hours of time to run about a day, not to mention cleaning it out. Fully research any animal you are considering as a pet then go to your local animal shelter, there are hundreds of lovely animals there just waiting for a home! Some animal shelters will let you 'foster' a pet, which gives the animal a much needed break from the confines of the shelter and gives you the companionship you crave with-out a long-term commitment.
Join an online community.Don't limit your online activities to just games. Join forums or chat rooms to meet new people also. Take whatever you're interested in and find other people like you.
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Part Six of Six:
Keeping busy
Exercise. Now is the time to get that body you've always wanted. Instead of just pigging out on junk food and sitting in front of the TV all night, do some push-ups or sit-ups.
Rediscover the fun to be had in simple exercises. Riding a bike around your neighborhood becomes less work and more fun as you do it.
Be consistent. Exercise takes willpower and diligence. Make a schedule and stick to it. Keep it easy at first and you will discover your limits. Or, join a gym and create new friends there.
Go outside. It's a big world out there, and you're only seeing a small fraction of it. Forget the people, just enjoy what life has to offer. Once you do that, then people will want to know and be with you. Frankly, you won't have a choice but to have friends!
Get involved. Do some charity work as it can make you feel good about yourself and gives you something to do in all your free time.
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Tips
Remember that life has it's seasons. It is constantly changing. So even if you desire to be with a significant other, it'll come when it's supposed to come. Be patient to let your life take it's own course, for everyone's path and story is different and the present isn't always going to be the future.
Go out for a walk and get some fresh air- morning sun will boost your energy, at night, air will loosen any stress.
Don't let others (especially married friends and colleagues)influence or pressure you into feeling somehow guilty or inadequate about your single/live-alone status. The single life isn't for everybody, obviously, but neither is marriage or cohabiting couple arrangements. So to each his/her own. Revel in your independence, and the choices you've made regarding your life and living alone.
Being single and living alone shouldn't mean that you have sloppy routines, neglect your health, or be disorganized and messy around the house. Make the effort to stay fit, eat regular meals, and keep the house and belongings tidy. It does feel better to be self-sufficient and organised.
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Warnings
Be careful before falling in love; being single can be more fun than having a whiny boyfriend or girlfriend. So be careful how you choose; it could cost you your sanity and free life
Just think that being alone is temporary, you will always meet new people
It's important not to forget others in your life - keep in touch with other people and continue to expand your social network. For extroverts, enjoying being alone may come as more of a challenge.
On-line communities, and especially on-line games such as World of Warcraft can become very addictive to some people. Learn to balance your new interest with other things that are both important and enjoyable in your life. If you find that participating in such a community or game is becoming addictive, stop immediately and re-evaluate your situation.
If you're bored, you may be
boring. You may have nothing to talk about at parties or gatherings, or may feel ill at ease contributing to other social situations, and therefore find yourself alone a lot. By making yourself more interesting, you'll also find more things to interest you. Be careful about making a change that doesn't fit your personality. Being honest with yourself and true to your own individuality is more important.
An excess of philosophical thinking may lead to depression; but this is not always the case. Don't believe me? Look at what Aristotle accomplished.
Be careful when talking to strangers on the Internet. You hear it all the time, but when you are sad, lonely, depressed or bored, you are more vulnerable and more likely to go along with someone else's ideas. Talking is fine, but leave it at that.

Be careful about getting addicted to being alone as in the end happiness is real only when shared

HOW TO USE SOME ONE WATSAP ON YOUR PHONE

How to use someone WhatsApp on your phone with watsapWeb?

To provide you with a richer communication experience, WhatsApp is now accessible both on your phone and your computer. WhatsApp Web is a computer based extension of the WhatsApp account on your phone. The messages you send and receive are fully synced between your phone and your computer, and you can see all messages on both devices. Any action you take on the phone will apply to WhatsApp Web and vice versa. At this time, WhatsApp Web is available only for Android , iPhone 8.1+ , Windows Phone 8.0 and 8.1 , Nokia S60 , Nokia S40 EVO , BlackBerry and BlackBerry 10 smartphones.
WhatsApp Web is not another WhatsApp account. When you use WhatsApp on your computer and your phone, you are simply accessing the same account on these two devices.
Minimum requirements to enjoy WhatsApp Web
You need to have an active WhatsApp account on your phone.
You need to have a stable internet connection on the the both phone .
You need to use the latest version of Chrome, Firefox, Opera, Safari or Edge as your web browser on your.
To get started with WhatsApp Web
1. Visit web.whatsapp.com on the persons phone.
2. Open WhatsApp on your phone.
On Android: in the Chats screen > Menu > WhatsApp Web.

On Nokia S60 and Windows Phone: go to Menu >
WhatsApp Web.

On iPhone: go to Settings >
WhatsApp Web.

On BlackBerry: go to Chats >
Menu > WhatsApp Web
.
On BlackBerry 10: Swipe down from top of the screen >
WhatsApp Web.

On Nokia S40: Swipe up from bottom of screen > WhatsApp Web.

3. Scan the QR Code on your computer screen from your phone.
From your phone, navigate to
WhatsApp Web to view your logged in phone or to logout from an active WhatsApp Web session.
After scanning you will discover that the watsap profile is now 2 and working on the both phone.

Post your coment if you have any problem...

ANDROID SECRET CODES THAT WILL SHOCK YOU

ANDROID SECRET CODES THAT WILL SHOCK YOU

Description Code
Testing Menu *#*#4636#*#*
Display Info about device *#*#4636#*#*
Factory Restore *#*#7780#*#*
Camera Information *#*#34971539#*#*
Completely Wipe device, install stock firmware
*2767*3855#
Backup all media files *#*#273283*255*6
Wireless LAN Test *#*#232339#*#* OR *#*#526#*#*
Change Power button behavior *#*#7594#*#*
Quick GPS Test *#*#1472365#*#*
Test mode for service activity *#*#197328640#*
Wi-Fi Mac Address *#*#232338#*#*
Another GPS test *#*#1575#*#*
Packet Loopback Test *#*#0283#*#*
Audio Test
*#*#0673#*#* OR *#*#0289#*#*
Vibration and Backlight test *#*#0842#*#*
Check touch screen version *#*#2663#*#*
LCD test *#*#0*#*#*
Touch Screen test *#*#2664#*#*
Proximity sensor test *#*#0588#*#*
RAM version *#*#3264#*#*
Bluetooth test *#*#232331#*#*
Field Test *#*#7262626#*#*
Check Bluetooth device address *#*#232337#*#
Google Talk service monitoring
*#*#8255#*#*
PDA, Hardware, Phone and RF Call Date info
*#*#4986*2650468
PDA and Phone firmware check *#*#1234#*#*
FTA hardware version *#*#2222#*#*
FTA software version *#*#1111#*#*
Displays IMEI number *#06#
Enables voice dialing logging mode
*#*#8351#*#*
Disables voice dialing logging mode
*#*#8350#*#*
Brings up Epst menu ##778 +call
Displays Build time and change list number
*#*#44336#*#*
Remove Google account setting *#*#7780#*#*
Reinstall the firmware *2767*3855#
Used to enter into Service mode *#*#197328640#*
Battery Status *#0228#
Data create menu *#273283*255*328
Data usage status *#3282*727336*#
OTA update menu *#8736364#
RF band selection *#2263#
Diagnostic configuration *#9090#
USB 12C mode control *#7284#
USB logging control *#872564#
Debug dump menu *#746#
System dump mode *#9900#
Shows Build time change list number
*#*#44336#*#*
NAND flash serial number *#03#
Real time clock test *#0782#
Light sensor test *#0589#
Quick test menu *#7353#
Execute from Emergency dial screen to unlock PUK code
**05***#

Samsung Secret Codes

Display IMEI number *#06#
Display current firmware *#1234#
Diagnostic and general settings mode
#*#4636#*#*
Factory soft reset *#*#7780#*#*
To display product code *2767*4387264636
GPS test settings *#*#1472365#*#*
Service mode main menu *#*#197328640#*
SW & HW Info *#12580*369#
Bluetooth Address *#232337#
ADC Reading *#0228#
RF Band Selection *#2263#
Ciphering Info *#32489#
Bluetooth Test Mode *#232331#
Diagnostic Configuration *#9090#
WLAN Test Mode *#232339#
Vibration motor test *#0842#
WLAN MAC Address *#232338#
USB I2C Mode Control *#7284#
Audio Test Mode *#0673#
General Test Mode *#0*#
USB Logging Control *#872564#
GCF Configuration *#4238378#
Real Time Clock Test *#0782#
Audio Loopback Control *#0283#
LBS Test Mode *#3214789650#
GPS Control Menu *#1575#
RIL Dump Menu *#745#
Data Create Menu *#273283*255*328
Proximity Sensor Test Mode *#0588#
Camera Firmware Update *#34971539#
Light Sensor Test Mode *#0589#
WLAN Engineering Mode *#526#
Debug Dump Menu *#746#
NAND Flash S/N *#03#
Software Version Info *#44336#
System Dump Mode *#9900#
Data Create SD Card *#273283*255*663
Data Usage Status *#3282*727336*#
TSP / TSK firmware update *#2663#
Remap Shutdown to End Call TSK *#7594#
Camera Firmware Menu
*#7412365# and *#*#34971539#*#*
WLAN Engineering Mode *#528#
Melody Test Mode *#0289#
OTA Update Menu *#8736364#
Test History *#07#
HSDPA/HSUPA Control Menu *#301279#
Quick Test Menu *#7353#
View Phone Lock Status *#7465625#
Auto Answer Selection *#272886#

HTC Secret Codes

Description Codes
Device information program
#*#4636#*#*
Field Test *#*#7262626#*#*
HTC Function Test Program *#*#3424#*#*
Display Software version *#*#1111#*#*
Display hardware version *#*#2222#*#*
Wi-Fi Mac Address *#*#232338#*#*
Bluetooth Mac Address *#*#232337#*#
GPS Test *#*#1472365#*#*
GPS Test 2 *#*#1575#*#*
Bluetooth test *#*#232331#*#*
Display test *#*#0*#*#*
Touch Screen version *#*#2663#*#*
Touch Screen Test *#*#2664#*#*
Debug UI #*#759#*#*
Factory format *2767*3855#
Conclusion
These were some of the most common hidden secret codes for Android devices. I would advise caution while using these codes, though, some of them can be a bit harmful to your device.
Just like always, if you have any questions or problems regarding these codes, feel free to talk to us in the comments.

HOW TO DESIGN A BLOG

HOW TO DESIGN A BLOG Would you like to give your Blogger blog a fresh coat of paint with a new theme? Here’s how you can use the new Template Designer to make your Blogger site stand out from the crowd and look great.

Although it’s not mentioned online as much as newer blogging platforms such as WordPress.com and Tumblr, Blogger is still a very popular blogging platform since it’s free, easy to use, and integrated with Google apps. However, Blogger’s themes often looked rather dated, and and it was difficult or impossible to get a truly professional or even modern look in Blogger.
Now, however, that has changed. Blogger has been recently revamped with a new Template Designer. This lets you quickly select from several nice, modern layouts, and even customize them with color palettes and stock photographs and artwork.  Let’s look at how you can customize your blog and create a unique style quickly and easily in the new Blogger Template Designer.
Getting Started

When you login to your Blogger Dashboard, you may see a new popup showing off the new Template Designer. Click the Try it now button to get started.

Otherwise, select the Design tab in your Dashboard, and then click the new
Template Designer link.

This will open a brand new template page that shows the new theme options on the top, and your existing blog design at the bottom.  Let’s do something about that old design.
First, from the Template tab, select a new Theme set, and then choose one of the available variations underneath.  If you don’t see one you like, click the right arrow to reveal more themes. Currently there are 6 theme sets, but each one offers several variations.
Once you select a theme, you’ll immediately see the changes on your blog preview on the bottom of the page. It’s looking better already. If you like the default theme style, you can go ahead and save your changes, or you can continue on and change the colors and background if you like.

Select the second tab on the top left to change the background and color scheme.
Click the Background image button to select from a wide variety of nice, free backgrounds from iStockPhoto. Select a category on the left, and then click the picture you want to use to apply it to your blog. You’ll see the changes immediately in your blog preview; if you like it, click Done , or go back and pick another if you’d like.

Back on the Background tab, you can select a premade color palate, or click the top button to choose a different base color. Note that Blogger will automatically switch your color scheme to match the background you picked, but you can still customize it if you like.
Now, you can change your blog’s layout to customize it even more. Click the
Layout tab on the top left, and select a new layout.  Notice that your blog preview on the bottom of the page will change to the old Blogger designer view, and you can drag and drop elements to the place you like as before.

Finally, if you’d like to customize fonts and colors on your Blog template, select the Advanced tab and then select the part of your blog you’d like to customize.
You can even add custom CSS to your theme from the Add CSS tab. You can see the changes immediately in the blog preview underneath, which is a great way to make sure you’re changing it the way you like. This lets you really customize your theme as you like.
Once you’re done tweaking your new theme, click Apply To Blog in the top right corner.
Now, open your blog in a new tab. If you like your new theme, then you’re all set; otherwise, go back and tweak some more until you’re content.

Conclusion
Blogger has seemed like one of the least feature-full blog platforms for awhile, but with the new Template Designer, your Blogger blog looks great even beside more modern blogging platforms. If you’re starting a new blog, you might want to try out several platforms to see which one you like best.  Now you can be sure to have a great theme, even if your site is running on Blogger.  Let’s get all the old Blogger blogs updated with the new themes!

HOW TO CREATE A BLOG

How to Start a Blog

Do you want to start a blog to promote your brand, or just share your thoughts on a subject that you love? Blogging is an inexpensive way to share your thoughts with the world. Learn how to develop your concept, launch your blog and market your content, this article will show you everything you need to get started.
Part One of Four:
Coming Up With a Blogging Concept
Ask yourself what you love, care about or wish to share with others. If you're going to write about something regularly and keep your blog fresh with new information, then you need to write about something that stokes your passion or that reflects your daily experience. Try some of these ideas to get your creative juices flowing:
Gaming. Nowadays, many people play games. You can write about games you play and post updates and/or cheats/hints.
Politics. Sure, everyone has an opinion about politics, but you may have a unique point of view that needs to be heard.
'"Fashion/Style/Beauty."' Blog about fashion and what new trends are in for fashion. For style, blog about different ways you can wear that new scarf you just bought. For the topic on makeup, talk about what new trends are in, and/or different ways to style your eyeliner.
Food. Who doesn't love good food? Share your recipes, start writing reviews of the local cuisine scene or write about how the food that you ate in China was nothing like the food that Chinese restaurants serve in the United States of America.
Movies. Reviews of movies, old and new, are always fun for movie buffs. And if you keep it fresh by adding clips and pull from sources that nobody else is using, you could have a hit blog on your hands.
Cars. Are you a car enthusiast? Post pictures of your favorite new models or reports from car shows.
Love. Everybody needs some love! Maybe you can give advice about how to get a date! If you're a little more inappropriate maybe be a little sexual to get more men or women followers.
Your business. Your blog doesn't have to be a hobby. A blog can be a fantastic tool for connecting with your customers and for providing them with helpful information.
Think about how you want to help people. While you want to know your broad subject area, you need to focus your blog topics more narrowly, so that it has a clear purpose. Here are some ideas for ways that your blog can connect with your intended audience:
Teach something. If you're passionate about a particular subject, and you have a lot of experience in that area, then you can offer your knowledge to both people who are new to the subject and others who are as experienced as you are.
Provide the latest news and trends. Write about the latest developments related to your topic. You want to be someone who's viewed as the ultimate insider so that you can continue to increase your blog's readership.
Make people laugh. Are you the funniest person you know? No matter what your subject area, you can present your experiences and thoughts in a humorous way that will really resonate with people.
Inspire others. Have you overcome an obstacle, such as a serious illness or a difficult life experience? Do you want to turn your challenges into something that will inspire others to overcome their problems? If that's the case, then make your blog inspirational.
Know what not to blog about too. Your workplace, your coworkers, your family members, etc. may take a dim view of anything on your blog if it blows open secrets, shares confidential information, makes fun of people you work or live with, or causes other people trouble. Know the limits––check with your workplace what is and is not permissible by way of personal blogging and ask your friends and family before including them in your posts.
Spy on your competition. Take a look at other blogs on your topic to see what other people are already doing. Ask yourself what you have to offer that is different from what other people are already doing. Identifying your niche will give your blog an angle that distinguishes it from your competitors.
Generate some names for your blog. Try brainstorming a list of names and writing them on a piece of paper, or talk to friends and family to get ideas. You can also try
freewriting to see what comes out of your mind as you free associate about your topic.
Research keywords related to your subject to help people find your blog. Go to a keyword suggestion scraper site like http://ubersuggest.io/
Enter items that are relevant to your topic into the appropriate search field. You can search by word or phrase, by website or by subject.
The tool will generate words or phrases associated with your topic. Pick the words that have a high number of monthly searches but have low to medium levels of competition. Try to include them in your blog name.
Check these keywords from time to time when you're writing a blog post. If you fit the keywords into your posts in a natural way, then search engines may be more likely to pick up on your blog and show it to people who are conducting searches about your subject.
Decide where to create and host your blog. Blogger and WordPress are 2 of the most popular blog creation sites on the Web.
Blogger: Google owns Blogger and has set it up for ease of use. Your blog will be extremely easy to set up and maintain, and you'll have Google's traffic management tools at your disposal. You can purchase a custom domain name for US$10 per year or you can get a free BlogSpot domain name such as
yourblog.blogspot.com. If you already own another domain name, you can use it for no cost.

Tumblr.com . This is a very handy, world-wide micro-blogging site. It provides a very friendly user interface and even helps place ads on your blog page to get you money. For more information read this article on how to create a Tumblr account .

WordPress: With WordPress, getting started will take more time. However, you'll find that WordPress has a wide variety of more sophisticated tools for enhancing and promoting your blog. You can purchase a custom domain name on WordPress for $18 per year or map an existing domain name to WordPress for $13 per year. If you want a free domain, you can use something like

yourblog.wordpress.com. [1] It is also important to note that there is a difference between WordPress.com and WordPress.org. Using Makeblog.org is a great way to start your blog. They are both free to use. Meanwhile, with Wordpress.com, it is hosted by the Wordpress organization, so your domain will be on a subdomain of Wordpress.com. Meanwhile with Wordpress.org, you are self hosting it, so your domain will be on your selected name. The former restricts bloggers from making an income and while the latter does require set up on your own host, it then allows full access to your blog's backend, full suite of features and improved SEO performance. [2]

Webs.com: Webs is a website builder that has been around since 2001. Everything about this website builder is customizable with their drop-n-drag feature. What's even better about this builder, is that you do not need any technical skills. Everything you need to know about what you want included in your blog is in front of you with easy to see/read options. Personal sites start free with no trial period. Of course if you want some enhanced features you will need to upgrade for a nominal

Apostle johnson suleman arrested by DDS

Ekiti State Governor and Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) Governors’s Forum, Mr Ayodele Fayose, in the early morning on Wednesday foiled an attempt by operatives of the Department of State Services (DSS) from arresting Apostle Johnson Suleiman of The Omega Fire Ministries World wide in Ado Ekiti.

Johnson Suleiman

The firebrand Pastor was alleged to have been preaching against Islamizing Nigeria and asked members of his church in Auchi, Edo State to resist the killings by suspected Fulani herdsmen, who he alleged of targeting Christians for decimation.
The Pastor who was in Ado Ekiti for a two-day crusade that was also attended by Fayose was trailed after paying a courtesy visit to the governor at the Government House to his hotel room by the operatives of the DSS in Adebayo area of the State capital who almost forced their way to his room but were resisted by security men of the hotel that insisted to know their mission.Ekiti State Governor and Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) Governors’s Forum, Mr Ayodele Fayose and Apostle Johnson Suleiman of The Omega Fire Ministries World wide after the during arrest by DSS
Sensing the danger, th

e Pastor was alerted and he called Governor Fayose who personally led a rescue mission to prevent the abduction of the Pastor and took him to safety.
The Pastor who narrated his ordeal around 2am said, “I came to Ado Ekiti for a crusade. But I had a premonition that I was being trailed after I preached that Christians should retaliate any attack or killings by the Fulani herdsmen. These Fulani headmen had turned many Christians to orphans and widowers but the time has come to protect ourselves.
“I received several calls from hidden numbers trying to locate where I am and I had warned my security not to allow any Fulani man to come nearer me. So when the men of DSS came in the middle of the night I knew their mission and I had to call the Governor because if they arrest me, they will put this country in fire”.
Governor Fayose, who expressed surprise that a man of God was been trailed to be arrested by the men of DSS said, he expected the security operatives to invite him “ if they have any issue with him instead of arresting him in the dead of the night after a powerful and spirit-filled crusade in my State.
The Governor said, “I personally attended his crusade and I think it is wrong for a man of God who is armless that could be invited if they have any issue against him. Are Christians and Moslems under different dispensation of the rule of law? . That’s why I went there to rescue him. Let them kill two of us together. But when they saw my vehicles and the crowd, they fled.
“But we have information that instructions came from DSS in Abuja that the Pastor should be arrested. We are not in a fascist state, Federal Government must learn to respect the rights of Nigerians and freedom of expression”.
Governor Fayose noted that it was unbecoming of the Federal Government to be harassing the clergymen in the country noting that the General Overseer of Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Pastor Enoch Adeboye was harassed and forced to resign shortly after he visited him in Ado Ekiti.
He said, “This is unacceptable, We are in a democracy and Nigerians should warn the Presidency against putting this country on fire because religion is an emotional thing”.
The governor also warned security operatives against intimidation and arrest of men of God in the interest of peace and religious harmony in the country. The constitution guarantees freedom of worship”.
Victor
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